Adolescence can be a turbulent time for many teenagers. Some teens get involved in risky behaviors such as promiscuous sex, drug and alcohol abuse, gang activity, or criminal mischief. Others may suffer from serious psychological problems such as suicidal thoughts. In the past several years, boarding schools for troubled teenagers have become a popular option for parents who fear that their children are out of control. But is such a school the right choice for your teenager?

There are several types of schools to choose from if you’ve reached the end of the rope with your teenager or young adult. Some institutions are designed specifically for troubled youth, while others are simply schools people send their kids to for all sorts of reasons. You can also choose between co-ed and single sex schools, religious or secular schools, and college prep or standard curriculum schools. Many schools, especially those for troubled teens, are also known as intentional communities because special programs are in place to give the kids what they need, including a sense of belonging.

Before deciding to send your child to a specialized school for out-of-control kids, it’s important to exhaust all other options. It is a heart-wrenching decision to make and sometimes it may feel like giving up on your child to send him away. However, this decision may save your child’s life if she is truly engaged in dangerous activities and refuses to accept your help in changing her behaviors.

If your child has a behavior that you think is becoming out of control, you should exhaust all other means of helping him prior to sending him away from home. Begin by talking with your child about your concerns.

One of the most important benefits of sending your child to this type of school is that he will realize he is not alone with his problems.

If the problem cannot be resolved this way, consider talking to your child’s teachers or guidance counselor, and don’t be afraid to get referrals to therapists you or your child could talk to while she still is at home. Also, consider changing your rules or discipline style to make sure your child’s needs are taken into account and that he is being held responsible for his actions.

Of course, these teenagers need to learn how to deal with a world full of people who may not understand or accept their problems.

Troubled teenagers will only remain in the specialized environment for a limited period of time; they need to be able to function appropriately once they return home. For this reason, many schools offer counseling not just for the teenager but for the entire family. Once the teenager leaves the school environment, his family needs to be able to deal with him appropriately so that positive changes are supported and negative behaviors do not begin to recur.

If these options fail, it’s time to consider boarding schools. Most schools take children on a limited basis (6 months to a year). The school should have an emphasis on both academics and discipline, counseling opportunities for your child, and specially trained staff to help your child stop acting self-destructively.

James talks about how a boarding schools for boys can be great Christian homes for troubled teens.

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