Homeschool Facts

We live in a time when the divorce rate still hovers at approximately 40-50% for most first marriages. It is these first marriages that are the most likely to produce children, hence the need for both parents to make the emotional and psychological needs of their children a priority.

Many parents observe that the kids are far more aware of the problems within the marriage that we may think they are. Overheard arguments, lack of coordination between mom and dad are easy for a child to understand. Young children very easily feel the lack of affection between parents or absence of one of the parents. Parents should talk to children and let them know that they can ask any questions, before proceeding with the divorce.

Once divorce is underway, both parents must make an effort to work together and attempt to make sure that their children are assured of unconditional love by both mom and dad. It’s human nature for a child to internalize what they are experiencing, many times children feel that they are part of the reason for the divorce. This can be very damaging to them emotionally and every effort should be made to avoid it. Extra hugs and kisses, and simple activities like taking a walk after dinner can be reassuring.

Children take the example of their parents. So both the parents should behave with dignity and show real concern to set example for their children. After effects of excessive drinking or casual affairs if seen by children of divorce may force the child to think about things that they are not mature enough to understand.

Both parents have a life long bond through the children. So negative comments about the other parent might lead to hostility towards the one who is doing the bad-mouthing. Always remember that words are very powerful and can be used to both damage and boost the kids confidence.

When separated, parents must keep a close watch on their children during play time or whenever it is appropriate. Therefore, school parent/teacher conferences are important. If children start struggling through homework or academic subjects, it is a sure sign that they are distressed. Regularly talking to the children and helping with homework as well as test studying can be a great help in regards to the childrens’ growth. Also, in order for the children to feel like they matter and are loved, parents must make an effort to go to the childrens’ extra curricular activities.

If the parents try to work together to help children cope with the separation, huge benefits are involved. Children will feel secure and confident about the mom and dad situation, and they will not feel badly about themselves to such a great degree.

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